Do you have a favorite sex position? I have many. This week it's laying on my back with my feet upon his chest. My knees are bent and I can feel his cock rubbing the upper inside of my vagina. Hitting my G-spot with each deep thrust. It always feels even better if my bladder isn't fully empty. I think it makes me more sensitive somehow. Here's how it went....
We started out as we often do - holding each other and kissing in missionary position. Which I find very arousing. After a while he kneels between my legs and sits up. I put my feet on his shoulders, allowing him to lean forward and penetrate me even more deeply. My legs flex back so that my feet are on either side of my head. He kisses me deeply. I love it. I'm so vulnerable here. His cock so big and hard that if he wanted to push it a little deeper he could hurt me - but he doesn't. After a bit he sits up again. Pulling me to the edge of the bed. I slide onto the angled sex pillow that we keep just for this purpose. It tilts my hips up slightly.
Now I'm laying on my back with my feet on his chest. While he makes long slow thrusts, pulling all the way out of me and then plowing back in - I can hardly contain how much it turns me on. Looking into his eyes I smile and moan. Reaching a hand down to touch my clitoris. I press my feet into his chest and raise and lower my hips. Grinding into him deeply which makes HIM moan.
We begin to move faster and I can hear the slick wetness of my pussy as he thrusts quickly and deeply. Filling me up to the hilt. The feeling of it is so sweet and delicious. My eyes take in his body. I love watching his muscles tighten and flex as he thrusts in and out of me.
He reaches for my hands and I pull him towards me, while pushing his chest away with my feet. Flexing my ass and squeezing my pussy as tight as I can around him. I grind myself into him and his breathing comes faster. The pleasure of it overwhelms my senses and I throw my head back and breathe deeply on the verge of orgasm.
He releases my hands and pulls my legs together and pushes them slightly towards me, off to the side. He wets his thumb and fingers with his mouth and then starts rubbing my clit while he thrusts. It drives me wild. So close to the edge. I can feel his cock getting thicker and bigger inside me, as he too gets close to coming.
"Oh yes please!" He whispers.
The combination of it takes me right over the edge. I look into his beautiful eyes and smile. I nod at him - and he knows. He knows I'm ready. He starts pounding me even faster and harder - all the while sliding his fingers back and forth over my clitoris. My breasts are jiggling back and forth wildly and I'm gripping the sheets with both hands. My heart racing, breath coming in gasps and moans until finally my body convulses in orgasm. My pussy clenches his cock as waves of pleasure roll through me. His mouth opens in wonder of his own pleasure as he starts to cum. Thrusting hard and deep until he fills me up with his orgasm. Taking a moment or two to slide in and out in the soft juiciness that is our combined love fluids.
My legs relax to either side of his body and he lays upon me. His head close to mine. Our hearts pounding together. Our breath hot and fast at first, begins to slow and become peaceful.
We relax into the moment.
"How are you feeling right now?" I ask him.
"Comfortable and in love" He says.
"Me too." I whisper.
And we drift into the peaceful bliss together...
Oh...and here's a link to that amazing pillow thing that gets your hips into the perfect position...
The difference between sex and lovemaking
Sex. Plain old physical sex is not very enjoyable for me. For men it seems this comes naturally and easily. It's not so for women. Here's an inside look at what sex without emotional intimacy feels like for me.
"You wanna go upstairs?" He asks. Putting his phone down on the counter.
"Why?" I ask. He cocks his head to the side and winks at me. I smile.
"Okay." I say. He ushers me towards the stairs and follows me up.
I get to the foot of the bed and turn to kiss him. He's already undoing his belt, taking off his pants, pulling his shirt over his head in rapid succession. I take his cue and begin undressing myself.
Once naked he gives me a quick kiss and launches us playfully towards the bed. I try to find his eyes with mine but they are closed as he leans in to kiss me. He gets on top of me and his cock pushes against my vagina. It's tight and dry. Closed to him. My body isn't ready. He puts his hand up to his mouth and wets his fingers with his saliva, gently transferring the wetness to my pussy and pushing himself inside.
It's uncomfortable. I feel non existent. Like the only part of my body that is required to be present is my vagina.
"Honey can you slow down a bit" I ask.
"Yeah okay." He says and grinds his hips more slowly into me. He breathes into the pillow next to my face and I try to focus on the semi-pleasant sensation of him inside of me.... hoping that I will warm up quickly enough to enjoy myself as well.
Fact is I'm not quite ready and I should have communicated that. But before I know it, it's over and I don't feel physically or emotionally satisfied.
What I really want...
My heart beats a little faster when I see you. I gaze at you, taking in your presence, inhaling a deep breath of appreciation. You are beautiful. I want you. I want your hands on my waist, your lips kissing my neck, your chest pressed against mine. I want to hear how much you want me in return.
But I want more. I want to feel a soul deep connection with you. To feel truly loved and reach the most intense climax ever there are things you need to know.
Lovemaking with emotional intimacy and Foreplay
For me, and for many other women as well, emotional intimacy is the highlight of the act of lovemaking. When I open my legs to welcome you inside of me I want to feel you inside my heart first. I want to feel like I am the only woman in the world. The only woman on your mind, the only woman in your heart. Emotional intimacy is an energetic connection that is based in mutual appreciation and respect. Without emotional intimacy I might as well bring myself to orgasm, by myself! (Having thirty years experience with self-pleasuring I can do a pretty good job of it - I don't need anyone else for that.)
So how does a person connect on an emotionally intimate level? For that I think we need to delve into some narrative. I'll take you into one of my fantasies....
My husband took my hand and led me up the stairs to the bedroom, he pulled me along, gently but with excitement - looking back into my eyes with a shy smile. I smiled back and wondered what was going on.
"I want to make love to you" He said, standing at the foot of the bed and taking my face in both of his hands. He leaned his head in to kiss me and his lips touched mine, gently. He wrapped his one arm around my waist while the other stroked my hair and held my head as we kissed at leisure. Breathing slowly and savoring the kiss, as if it was our first, or last kiss. The slow, waking kiss of love, tongues mingling, lips parted and sometimes nibbling on a bottom lip.
By the time the kiss was over I was breathing more heavily and my cheeks felt flushed. He began helping me remove my clothing. Leaving little kisses here and there on my bare skin. When I stood before him, naked as the day I was born, he stepped back and took a deep breath.
"God you're beautiful." He whispered. His eyes tracking slowly over my body. He made no move to undress yet, instead he stepped close again. His beautiful blue eyes looked into mine and he smiled a radiant smile of happiness. He pressed his fingertips over my heart and then traced them up my neck to the sensitive skin near my ear.
"I want to make love to you...do you want to make love with me?" he whispered into my ear. His breath was warm and soft and I could feel myself becoming more and more aroused..
"Yes!" I breathed. My heart pumping in my chest. He gently nudged me towards the bed. I sat down and ran my fingers over his chest, undoing his shirt, feeling the skin beneath and planting my own small sucking kisses on his abdomen.
Once he was also unclothed, we climbed beneath the warm covers. He lay next to me on his side, gazing into my eyes, smiling. His hand slowly caressed me. First my face, my neck, my arm. His fingers slid around the curve of my breast and he kissed me as his fingers drew circles around my nipple. As the kiss deepens he reached his arm around me, stroking my back and tracing over my thigh. My own hands explore his skin, nails gently tracing his muscles, holding his head as he kisses me.
"How are you doing?" He breathes into my ear.
"I'm well." I smile. "How are you doing?"
"Fantastic" he says and kisses me again, rolling on top of me and taking my face in his hands.
For a moment he stops everything and we lock eyes, smiling into each others eyes, feeling each others hearts. We both breathe deeply and he presses his hips closer to mine, tightening his body and sending a surge of energy into our connection.
"Do you like this?" He whispered as his fingers gently pinched my nipples. His eyes held mine, looking for my feedback. In answer I arched my back and moaned, closing my eyes slightly. It felt so good. He made his way down my body so that he could take one of my breasts in his mouth and the other in his hand.
" I love your breasts." He said.
"I love the way you love my breasts" I whispered, my breathing becoming slightly faster. For a time he took turns with one breast in his mouth and then the other. I could feel the heat building between my legs, the arousal surging through my blood. I was getting wet. I moaned.
He looked into my eyes again and smiled. I pulled him closer for a kiss and he took the hand that had been fondling my nipple and sent it sliding slowly downward between my legs. touching one thigh and then the other with a touch that barely grazed the skin and left me hungry for more. I did the same in return. Touching his skin gently, stroking his upraised cock with my fingertips.
"I love you so much" he whispered, holding my gaze as his fingers reached down and felt my hot wetness there, gently rubbing back and forth. My breath came in gasps as full body tingles came over me. He wrapped his other arm around me and held me against him, kissing me, as his hand massaged me into a frenzy.
"And I love you! You're amazing." I said, barely getting the words out through small gasps for air. I closed my eyes and fell into the kiss, into his hands, into his arms. I felt safe, adored, wanted, and oh so incredibly aroused.
We took turns kissing and sucking on each other until we couldn't stand it anymore. When he finally entered me we were both so wound up we sighed our pleasure in unison. Moving together rhythmically. Sometimes faster, sometimes slower. Changing position as desired
Tenderness, Communication, Respect, awareness
I want every person on earth to experience the passion that can arise from emotional intimacy and foreplay. Let me break down some of the highlights from the story.
- Admire your partner, tell them what you like / love about them. Communicate that they are special to you.
- Ask questions, make sure you and your partner are both on the same page. That you are both enjoying yourselves.
- Take your time to establish a connection using eye contact, gentle touch, kissing and tender words.
- Always, always, always, ensure your partner is fully aroused using foreplay before intercourse.